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The reason why the truth of this will never be spoken is because in order for black girls/women to be addressed, some TRULY harsh things will have to be said about black males—and NOBODY wants that to happen.
See, as long as black girls carry the burden of being the ‘backbone of the race’, they will continue to align their own interests with that of the black male; the same black male who has decided that his feelings of emasculation, oppression, and marginalization need be projected onto every black woman from his own Mama down to his own daughter. So as long as black girls/women are taught that ‘we’ need to ‘rise’ as a ‘people’, as long as she is made to believe that ‘we’ are in the ‘struggle’ ‘together’, she will always be beholden to TWO separate, yet overlapping enemies.
1. The GLOBAL hatred of her perpetuated by white supremacist standards of beauty, femininity, personhood, and humanity.
2. The LOCALIZED hatred of her perpetuated by the intraracial colorism, sexism, misogyny and patriarchy of the black male/community.
And while she may not be able to DIRECTLY tackle the more global hatred of her, on an every day, individual level, she CAN and MUST remove herself from that localized oppression, which steals her identity and robs her soul.
But she is not given permission to do this, because without HER—without her rallyin/protesting/fighting/struggling for the ‘we’—she is of no use to the ‘race’ and to black MALES. Without her staying in the ‘hood’, fighting against ‘gentrification’ on one hand (cue Spike Lee), white fighting against gangs, rape, food deserts, poverty and single parent, hood on the other…
Without her providing all the surplus ass and baby incubation services to keep pumping out the black male…
Without her to be there when the black male gets out jail, to fill his commissary and to put her house up for bail…
Without her to make the picket signs for Trayvon and all the rest…
Without her with her fist in the air, Angela Davis fro, screaming ‘black power’…
Without her sittin on the news, once again having to ‘forgive’ the white killer of her black male child…
Without her to be the reason why the black community is failing, and why black children are in jail, on drugs, gay and criminally minded…
Without her to be the mammy and mule of the race—the proverbial ‘Big Mama’ archetype who holds the family together—ALONE…
Without HER there to do all of that and so much more, the black ‘race’ as we know it, ceases to exist.
She is prevented from doing what will serve HER best interests because it is in direct conflict with what is in the best in interest of her brothers. She is made the Sacrifice so that that black male can exist.
The truth of all of this is black girls/women CANNOT ‘love’ the black male into righteousness. She cannot ‘mother’ him into civility. She is up against TOO MANY EXTERNAL FORCES for her to affect change of him on any collective level.
No. What she must do is LEAVE him. Just like any woman in a one-sided, abusive, unappreciative, ungrateful relationship. She must WALK AWAY from her abuser and NOT look back. Then and ONLY then will he be forced to decide if he wants to get his shit together or die (or be bred out) out of existence.
But NO ONE except for a few Black Woman Empowerment enthusiasts will ever suggest this as the answer. Fear of the black woman doing to black males what he has done to her creates a VISCERAL, primal type of rage-induced response that prevents the idea from even being really considered. Why? because when the black males leaves, the black female remains behind to ‘carry the race’. But when the black FEMALE leaves the race CEASES TO EXIST—a reality that complete conflicts with black religion based patriarchal notions that places the Male—the ‘Father’ at the center of Universe. To point to the obvious—that the black male needs the black female more then she needs him—crushes all notions of male dominance, or its more benevolent cousin, ‘gender balance’. In order to give black women permission to LEAVE would mean that there would have to be an admission, that the black FEMALE, not the black MALE, is, indeed, the target for all of this destruction we have witnessed for the past few hundred years.
And to remove the black male as the central target of white male oppression and supremacy is considered BLASPHEMY. ‘Everybody’ knows that the black males is under attack! The black female is just collateral damage.
(rolls eyes).
The truth is: It is the black WOMAN—and HER image, HER likeness and HER womb—that has always been the target. And the best way to make sure it stays denigrated is to use her own men—her own SONS, FATHERS and LOVERS—as the main aggressors against it.
So we can continue to have these conversations about gender and sexism and colorism and power dynamics and OOW births and fatherless homes ‘til the cows come home. The one common denominator in all of that is the black MALE—and NOBODY will ever, on any COLLECTIVE basis, give the black female permission to leave his ass behind.
NOBODY.
One sided loyalty is the name of the day in the black community. And it AIN’T flowing in the black woman’s direction.
All of this conjecture is nothing more than politics, selective morality, and false outrage. All this other shit is nothing but mental masturbation without the happy ending. Lots of ‘stroking’ and shit talking, lots of excitement and anticipation; a big production that goes NOWHERE.
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